One of My favourite fetishes is financial domination, or findom for short. Findom submissives are referred to as pay pigs, money slaves, cash cows, etc.
It is a somewhat complex fetish, but let Me try to break it down for you. At its most basic, it simply involves a submissive agreeing to pay his Domme a certain sum of money on a regular basis, usually weekly or monthly. He might pay for her rent, utilities, car payments, etc.; or he may only be able to afford to give her a little spending money. The Domme owes him nothing in return, and it is Her money to do with as She pleases.
Payment is in the form of cash, electronic bank transfer, PayPal or Western Union payments, even gift cards (Amazon being the most popular). Alternately, the submissive may treat his Domme to a shopping spree or send Her regular presents, preferably from Her wish list. Of course, a thoughtful pay pig will make scheduled payments and send gifts. Needless to say, whatever money or gifts he gives his Domme, a good pay pig will never complain and will always pay on time, no excuses. Depending on his level of devotion to his Mistress, She may become his number one priority, his raison d'etre. He earns a living for Her, he thinks about Her at work while he's earning money to give to Her, he scrimps and saves for Her, he does without because She deserves it far more than he does. Naturally, not all pay pigs are this devoted; all FemDoms dream of having a submissive who is so dedicated.
A far more complex scenario involves the pay pig relinquishing access to his credit card, debit card, bank account, etc., to his Domme, giving Her partial or even complete financial control over him, to the point that She may simply give him an allowance on which he is to live, keeping the rest for Herself.
What does the pay pig get out of this? Well, several things, depending on the individual. Obviously, he should enjoy paying his Domme. It's all about making Her happy and giving Her pleasure. He sees this arrangement as a testament to Her superiority. She deserves the money far more than he does, simply because of who She is. He does it for the sheer joy of knowing that he is contributing to the financial well-being of his Domme, even if he can only afford to pay $25 a month. It's not the amount that matters, it's the intention, the willing sacrifice, the follow-through, the reliability of the pay pig. Hence, a contract is often involved, as well as an initial, upfront payment or gift to signify his sincerity and his willingness to commit to the relationship--to prove that he's not just another time-waster...and believe Me, there are a lot of them out there.
Of course, at the far end of the spectrum, for the pay pigs who give complete financial control to their Domme, it's scarily exciting to put their lives into a stranger's hands like that. It's can also be very humiliating. They get a sick thrill from having to ask for an allowance like a little boy, even though they're grown men. Among other things, many pay pigs have to justify to their Domme every cent that they spend on themselves.
As for the Financial Domme, it should not be about bankrupting Her pay pig, which, unfortunately, is something that a lot of inexperienced, immature, and/or wannabe Dommes don't care about. Seriously, what purpose does it serve to ruin his life? She should never forget that he is a human being, not just a revenue stream to be bled dry and then tossed aside like an empty carton of milk. A good findom relationship should be realistic, long-term, and mutually beneficial. Otherwise, in the end, he is ruined and She has cast a bad light on financial domination, not to mention having to start all over again with another submissive. Needless to say, the pay pig should choose his Domme wisely. He should be able to trust Her to be smart enough and mature enough not to let sheer greed overtake common sense. Financial domination is a big responsibility, both for the Domme and Her pay pig.
Payment is in the form of cash, electronic bank transfer, PayPal or Western Union payments, even gift cards (Amazon being the most popular). Alternately, the submissive may treat his Domme to a shopping spree or send Her regular presents, preferably from Her wish list. Of course, a thoughtful pay pig will make scheduled payments and send gifts. Needless to say, whatever money or gifts he gives his Domme, a good pay pig will never complain and will always pay on time, no excuses. Depending on his level of devotion to his Mistress, She may become his number one priority, his raison d'etre. He earns a living for Her, he thinks about Her at work while he's earning money to give to Her, he scrimps and saves for Her, he does without because She deserves it far more than he does. Naturally, not all pay pigs are this devoted; all FemDoms dream of having a submissive who is so dedicated.
A far more complex scenario involves the pay pig relinquishing access to his credit card, debit card, bank account, etc., to his Domme, giving Her partial or even complete financial control over him, to the point that She may simply give him an allowance on which he is to live, keeping the rest for Herself.
What does the pay pig get out of this? Well, several things, depending on the individual. Obviously, he should enjoy paying his Domme. It's all about making Her happy and giving Her pleasure. He sees this arrangement as a testament to Her superiority. She deserves the money far more than he does, simply because of who She is. He does it for the sheer joy of knowing that he is contributing to the financial well-being of his Domme, even if he can only afford to pay $25 a month. It's not the amount that matters, it's the intention, the willing sacrifice, the follow-through, the reliability of the pay pig. Hence, a contract is often involved, as well as an initial, upfront payment or gift to signify his sincerity and his willingness to commit to the relationship--to prove that he's not just another time-waster...and believe Me, there are a lot of them out there.
Of course, at the far end of the spectrum, for the pay pigs who give complete financial control to their Domme, it's scarily exciting to put their lives into a stranger's hands like that. It's can also be very humiliating. They get a sick thrill from having to ask for an allowance like a little boy, even though they're grown men. Among other things, many pay pigs have to justify to their Domme every cent that they spend on themselves.
As for the Financial Domme, it should not be about bankrupting Her pay pig, which, unfortunately, is something that a lot of inexperienced, immature, and/or wannabe Dommes don't care about. Seriously, what purpose does it serve to ruin his life? She should never forget that he is a human being, not just a revenue stream to be bled dry and then tossed aside like an empty carton of milk. A good findom relationship should be realistic, long-term, and mutually beneficial. Otherwise, in the end, he is ruined and She has cast a bad light on financial domination, not to mention having to start all over again with another submissive. Needless to say, the pay pig should choose his Domme wisely. He should be able to trust Her to be smart enough and mature enough not to let sheer greed overtake common sense. Financial domination is a big responsibility, both for the Domme and Her pay pig.
Financial slavery is not for everyone. The submissive should not enter lightly into the decision to become a pay pig. He needs to reflect on how much and how often he can comfortably afford to give his Domme. This is a serious commitment on his part because if he reneges on his agreement, he risks permanent banishment by his Domme, even public humiliation. So don't try to be a big shot by making promises you can't keep. If you overestimate how much you can pay, chances are it will backfire on you big time.
Worse still are the empty promises given by would-be piggies who make all sorts of claims but end up making only one or two payments, if that. They are time-wasters and losers. They are easily spotted and just as easily banned. Financial Dommes have no time or patience for bullshitters.
One last thought. Quite often, financial domination and blackmail go hand-in-hand. I haven't mentioned blackmail until now because I don't do it, not even as a "fantasy". Besides being illegal, it's a very slippery slope, and it's far too easy for something to go wrong. I don't leave permanent marks and I don't ruin lives. Period.
The bottom line is this: if you're a potential pay pig, use common sense and choose a Financial Domme wisely. This isn't a game. If you're married, don't let yourself get too carried away, and for god's sake be discreet.
Anyways, this is just the tip of the iceberg. I will definitely be writing more about financial domination in future posts.
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